Your Questions About Abusive
Sharon asks…
How to cope after ending an abusive relationship?
I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years, it ended horribly 6 months ago. I have sole custody of our child, I feel so depressed and lonely. I really don’t feel ready to start dating anyone seriously. Any advice?
admin answers:
Congratulations!!! That is a hard thing to do….end an abusive relationship. My first thoughts – pat yourself on the back and celebrate.
But it is obvious that you are still grieving – which is normal. These things take time. It is good anyway that you not become serious with anyone 6mons – 1 year after a breakup – so that is good. Take it one day at a time. Think of your blessings about being out of the relationship. Maybe find a hobby, get a pet, treat yourself to something you like
David asks…
What to do when a respondent keeps editing their already abusive answer to make it more abusive?
How is it possible to flag up a problem with an author who you have already reported for abuse, if they continue to edit their reported answer to make it more abusive?
Is the system of abuse reporting able to detect when a reported answer is edited, and therefore might need a further review?
If I delete the question, will that mean that the mounting abuse will go undetected?
Help!
admin answers:
What you can do is after the first abusive answer is block that user and they will not be able to post on the question again. It is the weekend and abuse is not removed as quickly and it may take more than 1 user to report it and get removed. If you delete the question the report you made will still show what was posted and can still be removed. Not all answers are removed by one user reporting it it all depends on the reporters trust level. ———It says on the report page———If one or more reliable users report this answer it will be removed.
:Top abuse reporters will help us more quickly remove questions and answers that violate the community guidelines.
Ken asks…
How do you deal with a mentally abusive parent?
I am 14 and have a very abusive mother. She sometimes also physically abuses me. She used to be an alcoholic but she is still mentally abusing me and is in total denial about it. My father has recently died and she seems to be taking that out on me. I can’t get away from her because my family seems to believe her and running away is out of the question since we live in the middle of nowhere. I am too young to get hired and live on my own. Please Help!
admin answers:
Hi Jessie,
Sorry to hear life is so tough for you right now! Let me tell you a few things first. Your situation sounds a bit like my own situation when I was your age!
I lived with my dad in the middle of nowhere and he was an alcoholic who took his anger at my mother out on me.
Some things I did to get through the tough times till I could escape were:
1) I reminded myself every single day that what he had to say about me was not true. It was just his alcoholism talking.
2) When he hurt me I reminded myself that it was not about who I was at all. It was about who he was.
3) I did a lot of reading and took a lot of long walks.
4) As soon as I could escape, I did!
5) When I escaped I sought out some help for myself because I knew that I had been through some pretty tough stuff and knew that I had missed a lot of normal teenage stuff. Counselling was very, very helpful to get me back on track.
6) most important of all is I never gave up on me!
Hang in there Jessie! You can get through this and when you do you need to look back at it all once and thoroughly then having seen it from a different point of view and seen that you did well to cope with it all and that you were very resourceful to manage things as well as you did you will be able to let it all go and just move on.
Best Wishes for your future.
Lizzie asks…
How to deal with abusive incompetant co worker who has learning difficulties?
I have to work with a person with learning difficulties. Apart from the fact that he is unable to do the job, he is abusive, threatening, a liar and he has been caught red handed stealing. Management just don’t want to know about these problems saying they will “have a word” with him. Thus he gets away with his stealing, sciving and general abusive behaviour. What can I do about it? Does the fact he has learning difficulties make it acceptable to behave in this manner????
I believe I have the right to earn a living without being threatened, verbally abused and generally intimidated by a co worker.
admin answers:
It is very difficult, and if management refuse to anything about them, you do have a problem. Complain again.
Carol asks…
What is the difference between protective and abusive?
At what point does a boy’s behavior towards his girlfriend cross the line between protective and abusive? Don’t say violence, because there is emotional abuse, and that doesn’t have to include violence.
admin answers:
Protective is just being jealous of you talking to other guys or being worried for your well-being. However, telling you not to talk to friends and family is crossing the line. If he calls you names or says hurtful things to you, that is abuse. If he hits you in any way, it is abuse.
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