Your Questions About Abusive Husband
Betty asks…
abusive husband?
My husband has abused me for years, verbally and mentally. It is has been a horrible existence for the past 4 years. Now he is getting an injury settlement from a case before we were married. Shouldn’t I be entitled to some of this settlement? We are not divorcing as of yet, but I must leave due to his abusive ways. Can anyone help me?
admin answers:
You should, I would contact an Attorney because you know they have to keep things confidential
James asks…
Abusive Husband?
My aunt just recently left her abusive husband for the second time. This time she is actually going through with the divorce. In the past and just a few months ago he has unmercifully kicked her a$$. This last time she was sleep in the bed and he go on top of her pinning her arms down with his legs while punching her in the face. She said he hit her so hard and so much till she couldn’t even feel the blows anymore. This happened about three months ago after she went back to him the first time. Before she left him he would beat her in front of their kids. Some of this she has never told us (her side of the family) in fear that one of us would kill him.
Now I will admit that after hearing the last incident I was on the verge of killing him by climbing the roof of his house and sniping him that morning. But I didn’t because for some reason it seems that she brought this upon herself. This only two of the many beatings he has given her over the past 8 years.
But my question is this: Why is it that women stay in situations like this and don’t try to get out? She is a nurse and makes a lot of money. So it’s not like she cant afford to leave. She left the first time but went back to him. All because she said she loved him and wanted to make it work.
No I didn’t mean to make you think that I am blaming her. It’s just that anytime when we have told her to leave him in the past, she would get angry with us and tell us not to come back to her house. She would even say that we were causing problems in her marriage. My mom drove 2hours away to get her and her daughter before she had the second one out of a basement he locked them in. And when my mom got there and pointed the gun at his face my aunt told her to leave before she calls the cops. So no, I’m not blaming her, but when we have offered her help and advice in the past she has gotten angry with us not him. And yes that is scapegoating.
admin answers:
This blows my mind too. 50% of marriages end in divorce, and 90% are filed by women, but the women who have a LEGITIMATE reason to file often don’t. I’m glad she’s finally getting out of it. Curious to see if a good explanation pops up.
Carol asks…
Abusive husband?
I am coming to you people as my only hope. I am in terrible shape. My husband is an alchoholic and when he gets drunk he gets violent and beats me and sometimes even rapes me if hes really drunk. This is emotionally and phsically breaking me down. The only problem is that I love him. I cannot just leave the realationship. Please, I need your kind help. Thank you.
admin answers:
…get into S&M games…since YOU don’t want to leave.
…and since you are staying he may even bring friends home for you to entertain…
…PLEASE!!! Reconsider and LEAVE…
…get a divorce, alimony and a restraining order all this with the aid of a lawyer.
…good luck
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Sharon asks…
How do you leave a verbally abusive husband, who makes all the money while his wife Is a stay home mom?
I am fairly young, my husband is in the military and he is our only source of income. He is verbally abusive and I want to leave him and start making my own money so I can take care of myself and my child. My child has never been to daycare, and I’m not sure how he will react to other children, what do I do?
admin answers:
Here are the steps:
1. Develop a plan: what do you want to do with the rest of your life? How will your earn a living? Where will you live? What are your savings.
2. Prepare: Do a short career course; finish your college degree, the air force offers tuition assistance for spouses. You may also solicit the support of your family apply for financial aid, and begin training for a career. Financial aid, child-support, and a part-time job is usually sufficient for maintenance. Start saving.
3. Spring your plan into action, find a place to live, send out resumes, find a school, get as much in place as possible.
4. Drop the bomb!!: tell Mr dreamy that you are leaving him today. Or you may leave after he is gone, then send a note.
Don’t worry about daycare. I have four children, and I have found that the ones who have gone to daycare as toddlers socialize better in school.
Good luck in all you do remember, abuse damages your self-esteem. If do not feel good about yourself, you cannot give your child what she/he deserves.
Mandy asks…
What can I do if my abusive husband files for full custody of our child?
I finally got my abusive husband to move out of my house, but he came back while I wasn’t home and took almost all the furniture from my house. Now he has filed for divorce and I’m afraid he has asked for full custody of our child. I’m afraid for him to even have him for a day. What recourse do I have?
admin answers:
“I finally got my abusive husband to move out of my house….”
how exactly did you do this? Was the police involved? And did they eject him out, with force?
Then you do have proof of his physical abuse and violence, which means, you would certainly end up with full custody?
Why are you worried that he will have full custody? Every woman with child knows this.
Not unless there’s no proof.
Or if you’re making things up, then called the police.
I hate this kind of guessing game. You should post more info.
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