Your Questions About Abusive Parents
James asks…
Which is Worse: Parents who are Emotionally Distant or Parents who are Physically Abusive?
Emotionally distant or emotionally abusive: parents who never taught you how to love and made you unemotionally cold?
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Physically abusive?
admin answers:
Relating your question to my past physically abusive marriage, emotionally distant parents would be worse. Bruises heal. Words don’t go away. Words hurt much worse than hitting, etc. Been there. Done that. Ain’t going back.
Ruth asks…
What is the best way to celebrate the departures of cruel and abusive parents?
If you had abusive parents who caused you brain damage, physical and mental scars, destroyed a lot of opportunities for you, treated you as a slave or a Nazi prisoner, and caused irreversible mental illness and compound PTSD for you, what is the best way to express joy at their departures?
Would you throw a party? Give a speech that utterly roasts them and exposes what they did? Serve champagne? Desecrate their graves? Do as many things that they’ve prevented you from doing in one day? Any other ideas?
Where did I say this was about me? Why make it personal?
Where did I mention revenge? This is about celebration, not revenge. You cannot take revenge on dead people! What is wrong with honoring freedom from abuse?
Abusing a child even once negates all the “good” the parents do. Bringing a child into the world is not a cause for celebration if the same parents abuse the children even once.
Again, the question is HOW to celebrate the deaths of abusive parents, not what reasons there are not to do so.
admin answers:
Do something that they never let you do…
Do something nice for yourself. Whatever that may be…Doing anything that makes them apart of it dampens the celebration. Forget them. Treat yourself.
Michael asks…
abusive parents….?
i have a friend who recently told me that there mom beats them. i dont know what i should do. im not suppose to tell anyone because they dont want help. im scared for them . what should i do?
admin answers:
Some people will tell you that you should go tell someone immediately. I say don’t.
Think about the circumstances. How severe is the abuse? Is their mom hitting them regularly and hard, or are they just being disciplined once in a while when they screw up? Are there any visible signs of abuse, like bruises on their face? How have they been acting lately? How long has the abuse been going on?
Think carefully before reporting something like this. These cases change lives and for a family to be torn apart over some spats of anger is just wrong. Does your friend love their mom? Are they happy at home?
Talk to your friend seriously and assess the situation. Although it might sound harsh, your friend might be exaggerating to get symphathy or attention. Depending on how the situation is, think about it carefully and if you need more advice after getting some details, feel free to message me.
Mandy asks…
What are the legal and financial responsibility to take care for long time stranged abusive parents?
Can a parent who was abusive of their children sue an adult child for child (financial) support?
admin answers:
I work in the elder care field and I’m a social worker. Adult children have no obligation to provide any type of care to there parent you don’t even have to speak to them if you don’t want The only thing you cant do is be abusive to them like say you live in their home and knew that you were neglecting that elder then you could go to jail. So if you don’t want to provide any assistance you do have to.
Richard asks…
Need book ending dependency on abusive parents?
I am looking for a self help book or a book explaining how to end dependency on abusive parents. Books on adult survivors of child abuse staying dependent upon their abusive parents way into adulthood. Anything related to these topics would really help thank you
admin answers:
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Author Forward, Susan.
Title Toxic parents : overcoming their hurtful legacy and reclaiming your life / Susan Forward with Craig Buck.
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