Your Questions About Foster Care Adoption
George asks…
As a young child, did your parents give you up for foster care or adoption because you have a disability?
The reason why I ask this because I have a disability, & I was in foster care. Lots of foster/adoptive but mainly foster children have disabilities. Unfortunately, my foster family hated & still does hate me because of being disabled, & my biological family feel the same way & treat me the same way. It makes me feel like my biological mom may as well have raised us. I’m also a twin.
admin answers:
I wasn’t disabled at birth, but as I grew, my a-parents “healthy, white infant” grew into anything but.
I hate thinking that so many children are passed over due to medical reasons, then people get what is considered a healthy child, who can just as easily end up having a medical nightmare. Plus, then, in some cases, you have no medical history to help with diagnosis.
It just goes to show that every child needs love and support first and foremost.
Lisa asks…
pondering what to do, infertility, foster care, adoption?
i have had endometriosis since i was 17 and now am about to be 31, no kids….i currently dont work but my fiance does and was wondering how hard is it to get into foster care? if someone in the household doesnt have their greencard yet does that matter? thanks!
admin answers:
If you’ve gotten past your infertility issues, great, but most parents going into adoption have some issues going on. I’ve worked in adoptions for 10 years, both for family services and for a private adoption agency. I’ve handled fost/adopt, private adoption, and international adoption.
It is typically very easy to become a foster family. If you love kids, can support yourselves financially, have the extra space, and don’t have criminal history involving violence or drugs, I’d say you’re a good candidate to at least check it out. Just don’t do it for the money, it’s not profitable. I say because I’ve seen families who think they can make money off it, and the kids suffer, but sometimes they get away with it for a while given the shortage of foster families.
As far as adoption goes, in California, we are never allowed to ask for proof of citizenship. An adoptive parent can be from another country. That’s a legal and political issue and is bound to change from state to state and time to time.
To become foster parents, you need to contact either a foster family agency (FFA) or your local government agency. The advantages of going with an FFA are that they will give a little more money each month to care for the child. The disadvantage is that they will be bothering you a lot, probably weekly. The disadvantage of going with the government agency is that the monthly stipend will be lower, around $500/month per child.
The process of Foster Care and Adoption is easier than most people think and the rewards greater.
Good Luck!
Jenny asks…
(Adoption) What health issues are foster care/adoption agencies looking for?
Can you be rejected if you are overweight with no health problems?
admin answers:
In some cases you could be overweight and that is one thing morbid obesity is a very different story.
Generally, foster and adoptive parents need to have a physical and the doctor is asked to complete paperwork. The questions are often very specific and most doctors will answer these to favor the side of caution meaning if they FEEL your weight puts you at risk or at higher risk for medical issues–The doctor may report this. The State would then decide how to handle the concern.
There have been cases where people have not been considered for obesity issues and how they relate to health. The important thing they look at is if you will live long enough to parent a child.
~~Since it takes a little while to be trained and certified Start a diet today and start a walking program–You could get in great shape by the time you are considered for a placement, if you start today!
Betty asks…
Foster Care and Adoption in America, what can we do to fix it?
I had a foster child and experienced the foster system. It is not working. Kids who need removal, due to neglect, abuse, etc.
Are put, in foster care, with the goal to return them when their parents get help. But, alot never do get help or change and they manage to get custody of their kids back… That is messed up!
And people who want to adopt kids can’t do so without years of waiting on a list. Part Of the reason I think is children stay in foster care too long and get older and some develop more problems. Then most folks don’t want to adopt older kids, or ones with problems. So while everyone who wants a baby, waits the others age out of the system without ever being adopted. What are your thoughts or ideas that would help?
admin answers:
I am part of an organization that tries to answer just that by training foster/adoptive parents, social workers and juvenile court professionals.
Www.elevate2inspire.com
James asks…
Why is there so many children in foster care and adoption programs?
I’ve heard about it, possibly because I have a close relative who has a social worker job, and when I did childcare, I took care of a handful of children who were in the system or came from poor, neglectful households (from what I heard).
Whatever happened to go good ol’ parenting and having your own biological children?
Yes I understand the reasons why children go into foster care or are set up for adoption. I understand for some people adoptions the only way they should have a kid. From the prospective of a birth parent, why don’t more parents just suck it up, and do it. I mean if you are teen who got pregnant either get an abortion ( I know it’s controversial) or suck it up and realize you need to take care of this human being. And for the parents who do drugs and commit other crimes, that lifestyle needs to stop once you have a child.
admin answers:
I think that the reason we have so many children in foster care boils down to a few things.
1. People dont think before they act and arent ready for the responability that comes along with it.(physical abuse , neglet)
2. People go ahead with having kids with regards to getting money and then decide that they will put their children last and themselves first .
3. Drugs and alchol
4. Poor education and they decide maybe someone else can give their child a better life
5. The state interfering in homes that are good for kids but that they miss things and then need to have someone to blame for their fault so they take them away.
6.parents passing away and having no one to take care of them in death.
There are many reason why children are in the system some are there for reason listed others becasue their parents were to busy with own lives. Many are there becasue of neglet. I dont think the sustem does a lot ot help failing families as they do just to take kids away. I mean sure there are times that children are definately better to be removed from a home and others where case workers decide that they think they “know it all and that they can play god with people kids becasue you didnt answer a question properly or your house wasnt as clean as it should be in their opionion but far from fiflthy. So many parents give up fighting a system to go off and have more babies for only the state to find out and take them too.
I feel that if more state funding was given to teaching new parents how to raise kids while pregnat and more education there we may have far less children that ended up in foster homes. Of course their will always be the sick crazy parwent that doesnt ever deserve to give birth that does. It is a vicious ccyle that goes on and I think the children are the ones that pay for our society not being able to get it right.
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