Honest Parenting

Is BOOTCAMP the answer for our Out-Of-Control Teenager?

Our 13 year old daughter is out of control. We are doing everything we think we should to help her to become a productive teen and eventually an adult, however with each passing day she seems to be getting angrier.
Here’s a .little history – i will keep it as brief as possible –First off her Dad left her mom when she was 3 and married me. Her mother never did get over him and said many horrible things about us to her from an early age. (like: your dad doesn’t love us ) To make a long story short she played games w/ her head. A yr ago Jan. she moved in w/ us cause her mom got arrested for being under the influence of drugs. This phase was short lived but her mom pretty much abandon her after her arrest. No calls eccept my daughters appempts to reach her mom, and no way of talking to her about what it is doing to her emotionally. She is taking it out on us saying hateful things to us & her lil brothers. She has fits of rage that are uncontrolable most of the time. WE NEED SOME HELP??

Dealing with an out-of-control teenager?

My sister, who had recently turned 18, is completely out of control. I go away to school and coming back to see her abuse my parents the way she does makes me very frustrated and angry. She is at certain times violent. She neglects to understand how hard my parents are working for the both of us and just goes about demanding things from them. My sister is a pathological liar, very stubborn, and never likes to take any blame. It is as if everyone else is always wrong and she is always right. The other day she came out of her room and started cursing at my mom and demanded that my mom bring her food right away. My mother complied and went out of her way to bring her take-out food but when my mom brought the food back just wouldn’t eat it. There have been several instances where she had asked for something and my parents got it for her and then she just refused to take it. She is treating them like dirt. She is demanding a car but my parents cannot afford it. I feel as though she is torturing / punishing my parents for not being able to get her a car. It is the most frustrating thing. She just doesn’t understand or doesn’t want to understand.

Someone please help us out. I can hold my cool for a while but for how long? I don’t know how much longer I can take this. She is treating my parents like complete sh*t and both my parents and I are very upset about it. Any help is greatly appriciated.

What to do with out of control teenager?

My fiance’s 16 year old son, who is living with us, is really out of control lately. My fiance raised their kids to never lie or steal, but the 16 year old has been starting going down the wrong path lately. It started last year with him going into our bedroom and stealing a candy bar.. pretty minor. Then we visited his aunt for Thanksgiving, and he stole a couple movies and brought home with him. One time he was angry and broke my nightstand lamp. Then a couple weeks ago, he broke his brother’s iPod out of anger, which his brother had gotten only a few weeks earlier for his birthday. Now last week we had to find out that the boys stole quite a significant amount of money from our bedroom. They are off to school now and we have been searching their room, of course we could not find it. Now, for all the previous instances he had been punished in the past for having taken his video games away for several days at a time. My fiance has confronted both boys for stealing the money, they both denied it. He did not keep on it and he says that he will wait until they have just enough room to hang themselves… he wants to wait until they come home with something new that of course they were to never have been able to afford… but I just think that then they will probably just say that they got the money for it from a friend.
How to deal with this? We can not exactly force them to admit. We know they did it, but we dont have any proof. Is there any way to handle this situation effectively?

How can I help my out of control teenager?

My son was failing out of 10th grade, was smoking marijuana regularly, and had out of control rages in which he has put holes in my walls and broken two of my doors. I got him in the National Guard Youth Challenge Program and for four days I had hoped he was finally going to turn his life around until the Youth Challenge Program called and told me to pick him up because he was kicked out for testing positive for marijuana. The next several days he was verbally abusive, constantly berating me to the point where I had to lock myself in my room to get away from him and keep it from escalating to the point it would become physical. Unfortunately, after seven days of constant intimidation and verbal abuse I lost it. He left home and haven’t seen him since. I did talk to him and know he is safe, but he refuses to come home and is still angry with me. I am getting counseling, next appointment is tomorrow. I am thinking of giving up and emancipating him. I am also thinking of filing the paperwork to have the courts take over. I was hoping we could work it out and compromise but there is no reasoning with him. Anybody deal with this before? What worked? What didn’t work? I don’t want to make this situation any worse. Help!

What to do with an out of control teenager?

I have a 15yo girl who is out of control. When she doesn’t get what she wants just like a toddler she gets mad and throws a tantrum. Hits kicks bites and wont do anything I ask her.I ignore her but then she starts to hit my younger ones and then she knows I will give her all my attention because I wont tolerate that! I need to control her. The doctor said these words exactly “You need to get physical with her” What does he mean by that and what are some ways to calm her down?